By Karen James
In life, no one is ever truly “too busy.” It all comes down to priorities. If you’re at the top of someone’s list, they’ll always find the time for you. If you’re at the bottom, they’ll screen you out. It’s a harsh reality, but one we must understand and embrace if we want to move forward.
This truth highlights the importance of self-development. The more you invest in yourself—your knowledge, your growth, and your value—the more attractive you become to others. People are drawn to those who are continually evolving, who have a magnetic presence, and who prioritize their own well-being and success. Conversely, neglecting your own growth makes you less appealing, and people begin to distance themselves.
When someone tells you they are “busy” and will “get back to you,” it’s easy to feel slighted. But instead of taking it personally, see it as a signal that you need to elevate yourself. Use this as motivation to become the best version of you. Instead of chasing those who make excuses, focus on disappearing for a while—become a ghost.
Creating a scarcity of your presence makes you more valuable. Take time away to nurture your growth, expand your knowledge, and build yourself up. As you sharpen your skills, develop your character, and achieve personal milestones, you’ll notice a shift. The same people who once told you they were “too busy” will start seeking your attention.
Absence can be a powerful tool for transformation. By stepping back and working on yourself, you’ll reach a point where you stop hearing, “I’m busy.” Instead, others will be making time for you, eager to be a part of your life, because your personal development demands it.
Your value is determined by how much you prioritise yourself. So, make self-development your highest priority. When you do, you’ll no longer be pushed aside, but embraced by those who once overlooked you.
